Thank you to all who shared this survey with me - these are my responses. I know I'M cluttering the thread by doing this shit, but if you want to respond to specific points, please do so in your PT or via PM instead of in thread.
1) What is your personal relationship with drugs?
When I was around 12/13, I spent a lot of time at my best friend's house, where we lived kitty corner from the main drug dealer in town. Drugs were easily accessible when I was younger and it was something that most people around me did, so I just sort of got sucked into them. I smoked a fair amount of weed, did a decent amount of ecstasy when I was younger. Smoked a lot of weed, dabbled in hallucinogens when I was older. I don't do anything now - I am obligated to drug test my employees as part of my work and so it feels too slimy to have to fire someone for a positive drug result when I myself am doing shit.
I enjoyed drugs because of the different perspectives they offer; hallucinogens especially were absolutely fucking insane and this drug trip in particular laid out a lot of my fears in front of me in a way where I experienced the "what's the worst that could happen?" scenarios in a way that felt incredibly, incredibly weird while on the outside I was just a guy doing crazy shit.
2) What is one thing that you wish you could do or one thing that you'd do more often with lowered inhibitions?
This has changed a lot since managing people, but sometimes usually the thing that I have trouble doing is being a bit more confrontational when necessary in the moment. It usually ISN'T necessary, but sometimes you need to dig your heels and tell people to fuck off and I'm always hesitant to take that step because it usually just burns bridges.
3) What is one thing that you regret?
I've done a number of very shitty things in my lifetime, but I am also of the perspective that I wouldn't be the person I am today without the mistakes I made in the past, so if "regret" is equivalent to "things that I did that I would take back if I could" there's not a lot of regret in my life. I did once tell an ex-girlfriend that I hated her hair (and didn't so much as attempt to conceal my disdain because I wasn't thinking) and I saw her face drop and definitely would take that one back if I could.
4) What is one thing that you are irrationally afraid of?
When I was younger, it was tornadoes. We lived close to a fire station and there would always be an earsplitting alarm coupled with stepmom freaking the fuck out tripled with the wind itself - I'd always run the the closet and chant "wind wind, ease down. please do not destroy our town." until it went away. Then, one fateful day, my mom forced me outside when all that shit was happening and it was underwhelming and that took a huge amount of the edge off. Then, it was heights. Not like a crippling fear, but thanks to toxic masculinity, my friends badgered me to ride the Top Thrill Dragster at Cedar Point and that was that. Now my irrational fear is centered around just standing still; getting trapped doing the same shit day in and day out without growing or changing or moving or finding something new.
5) What is one bad thing that happened to you that made you a better person?
I was homeless for a very very brief period of time, and by "homeless" I mean that my mom and I slept in her very nice car for a couple of weeks with a bunch of our possessions stuffed in her back seat. That was the first time that I really got a glimpse behind the curtain, so to speak: that was the moment when I realized maybe we WERE poor and I think was the spark that taught me appreciation for things that I wouldn't have otherwise.
6) What is something that empowers you/pumps you up?
Music. Music all fucking day. I love songs from a majority of genres - I love the feeling when you discover a new song and you listen to it over and over, I love the moment when you rediscover an old song you used to listen to that defined a portion of your life, I love the moment when an artist that you're listening to has a stellar fucking lyric that you connect with, I love the moment when you hear a song you've loved for a long time in person and you
see
the emotions on the artist's face when they sing it, I love the feeling when an entire room belts out a group song, etc etc. Music fucking owns.
7) How would you define yourself - what hobbies, habits, pursuits make you the person that you are?
I would define myself as someone who can understand and connect with a wide variety of people - my interests are pretty fucking all over the place and I think that I've had the privilege of connecting with a wide range of people in my life - ever since I was young I've always felt like I was straddling two different worlds with home life vs outside the home life and definitely still feel the "connects to many groups, belongs to none" sense that I had when I was a young black kid that talked white.
"Playing with Nacho is like playing with a religious conservative." ~UncertainKitten
-- Fate, Vanilla Townie, was brutally stabbed by a throwing sword in endgame.