Idk I like Gamma but I struggle with people misgendering me and the dysphoria from that and it's really just an apology idk
Posted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 7:39 am
by Toogeloo
It's important to understand if it's malicious intent. I don't feel that anyone has crossed that line. We're human, we make mistakes.
Posted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 7:42 am
by Infinity 324
In post 911, Toogeloo wrote:It's important to understand if it's malicious intent. I don't feel that anyone has crossed that line. We're human, we make mistakes.
this is fair if you give an apology, which gamma hasn't for the all caps post
Posted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 7:45 am
by ulyana
In post 911, Toogeloo wrote:It's important to understand if it's malicious intent. I don't feel that anyone has crossed that line. We're human, we make mistakes.
non-apologies are malicious
Posted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 7:46 am
by Gamma Emerald
I apologize, I let myself get carried away and I made the one mistake I’ve been the most afraid of for almost a year now. I feel like a failure and a fucking idiot. I’m sorry I’m sorry I’m sorry
Posted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 7:51 am
by Gamma Emerald
For so long I’ve been worried about going too far and alienating someone by pushing the wrong buttons, and this is my worst fears realized. I fucking hate myself for pushing Prism away and I don’t want to make this all about me but I’m basically a fucking mess atp
Posted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 7:57 am
by petapan
maybe just log off for a while and focus your attention on something else, what's done is done
Posted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 8:08 am
by Gamma Emerald
I can't accept that, not when "what's done" is essentially me violating my values for the sake of my pride
Posted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 8:09 am
by Cephrir
without commenting on whether an apology is required in this situation, if you ever find yourself typing "i'm sorry if you feel xyz" i'd recommend just not posting instead
Posted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 8:11 am
by Infinity 324
<3 gamma, i'm sorry you're beating yourself up about this so much, that's not worth it
Posted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 8:12 am
by Gamma Emerald
that makes sense @cephrir
what's the "right way" to apologize?
Posted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 8:16 am
by Cephrir
if you want to make an apology, apologize for your actions, not for the other person's feelings, imo.
if you can't do that, you probably aren't sorry and i don't think there's too much value in an insincere apology
Posted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 8:35 am
by Gamma Emerald
In post 919, Infinity 324 wrote:<3 gamma, i'm sorry you're beating yourself up about this so much, that's not worth it
thank you
I don't know if and how I can forgive myself for this, but knowing you don't think the worst of me, it gives me hope?
Posted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 8:44 am
by Taly
Gamma
, mistakes happen.
The best thing you can do is communicate and listen to
Prism
in private if she allows. Nobody is served by you beating yourself up over this, and you're only hurting yourself. I know you can't just say
"stop being mean to yourself"
and that goes away... I have first hand experience with that.
But focus on a solution that fortifies your integrity rather than berates it. It can hurt to try, but medicine usually doesn't taste good anyway.
Posted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 8:47 am
by Taly
Now for a tonal shift~
In post 906, Gypyx wrote:yo guys, Prism² here, will catch up when i catch up
Hey
Gypyx
!!!
Hope you townread me like 90% of the time people have mentioned me this game - including your predecessor.
I mean, this is the ONLY time I can be UTR with almost no drawback!! I doubt scum get an NK. So my presence actively weakens them.