In post 8479, mastin2 wrote: In post 8476, BROseidon wrote:Of course from your PoV you knew you were right, because you could read your PM.
I couldn't, and I had an erroneous read.
And yet, I did my damnedest to communicate that you were wrong. I built as many bridges as I could; you were the one burning them down. Because you took it internally. You thought I was attacking your character. When what I was doing was, simply, reaching out to you. I tried to understand where you were coming from. You never reciprocated. I saw no effort to try and understand where I was coming from...and also no effort on your end to explain where you were coming from. Again because you wouldn't let me. You closed yourself off. And took things personally.
Whereas if you had opened up and
let us in
, the whole crisis would have been averted.
The only way to have prevented the situation from my end would have been to have had a correct read there.
This is the problem. You think there was no way to prevent it on your end, and it was purely on my end that it could be prevented. If you actually read my posting...you'll realize I changed approaches, multiple fucking times, in an attempt to do exactly that: prevent it. I put time and CONSIDERABLE effort into trying to bridge the gap and get you to open up...
...But because you thought and still think it's not something you could have stopped, that it wasn't something of your doing...that was impossible.
You can see it throughout nearly the whole game, even.
I was open. Rancid was open. Katsuki was open. RG was open. LB was open. Heck, Mara/Orc was open, too.
The neighborhood was shut.
In more ways than one.
The players who were most accurate were the players who let others in and tried to get into others.
Efforts which you're saying you think not possible on your end.
Except they are.
And they work.
The closest time you've gotten to reading me correctly was in the Xeno games...where you let that happen.
The games where you've read me wrong are the games where you've closed yourself off from others.
You just need to see it and recognize it.
Not in hindsight.
Hindsight's crap.
In the damn game. Pay attention to it.
And I can guarantee you.
GUARANTEE you.
That it'll go better for you than it did here.
Don't get self-absorbed.